Velma beats Daphne – why geek is sexy

Some time ago, I wrote about Geek being the new sexy because I truly believe this is the case. Geeky has become fashionable to the point where the pretty girls are trying to catch up to science whiz kids and guys are starting to realize that you can be attractive, even if you work at a Buy More.

As for the title in this post, in short, Velma is sexier than Daphne. Sure you can focus on the brains, which is the easy call, and you’d be right. A woman with brains to match beauty is most certainly attractive... please check out Natalie Portman, Emma Watson and Danica McKellar for three examples of women who are not only beautiful, but brilliant and who consistently pursue to broaden their intellectual horizons. A good sense of humor also helps, case in point, I think Tina Fey is a marvelous woman. The key is to be yourself, to indulge in what makes you, well you. To be proud of what you have and to make it work because odds are, you’re gorgeous. And in Velma's case, she has it going on, is smart and knows how to rock orange clothes like no other.

As for guys, there’s always been a place for cute geeks to get the girl. John Cusack comes to mind, as does Zachary Levy, and lest we forget Michael J. Fox who also proves that you don’t have to be tall to be attractive. Also note, I chose three guys who aren’t all buff and huge yet are still ridiculously appealing to women.

That’s because real people are attractive. You don’t have to be a mega hunk or super babe to have someone be attracted to you. Some girls like the geeky guy and many men like the shy girls with turtleneck sweaters. There’s a newfound appeal to geeky women because they are more in tune with what they like, because they like to break down barriers, because they can engage in wonderful conversation and because they are attractive beyond their bodies. THEY, as in the whole package, are attractive (looks, personality, likes, quirks and brains).

Being geeky means admitting you like cartoons, you read comics, you know all the lines to Big Trouble in Little China, have seen entire series during the course of a week and can babble on and on about countless topics. It means that you look at the person rather than the clique they belong to. It means you see beauty in skinny bodies or fuller bodies... because our bodies may be what most people see, the thing is that they don’t define us, and regardless, there’s someone who will find you attractive.

I know geeks who have ended up with prom queens and super dorky girls who end up with the hunk. That’s because substance trumps exterior. I think the most important thing to remember though is that to love someone else and let someone else love you, you have to first love yourself. So focus on your quirks, focus on your skinny legs; focus on your fuller cheeks; focus on your freckles and ginger hair, focus on your braces and all those other traits you can’t stand about yourself and realize that someone doesn’t just find you attractive despite of those traits, but that in fact, they actually love those traits about you, because they make you the person who caught their eye.

As for Velma.... seriously, freckles, glasses, knee high socks and mary jane’s? if that ain't sexy, I don't know what is.

So here’s to wearing turtle necks to let imagination do its wonders and to always being yourself, because that’s the best sexiest version of you that you can be.

Peace, love and maki rolls.

JD