Friday, July 4, 2014

An issue of mass perception

Female beauty is one of the most wonderful things to appreciate because there are so many shades of beauty. It’s a veritable rainbow of beauty where every aspect of a woman can be appealing to men and women the world around.

As women develop, their formative years are very delicate because they are susceptible to public opinion of what beauty should look like and especially what it should weigh.

I am happy to live in times when women are embracing their bodies more though it is still alarming the amount of bright, wonderful, talented and very beautiful women who struggle with their natural beauty because people are obsessed with the right height, the right look and again, the right weight.

It’s in our power to help young women the world round know that they are beautiful and to focus on health rather than appearance. As a teen, I went out with a girl who was absolutely gorgeous. There was only one problem: she didn’t believe she was and developed an eating disorder. Years after we went out, she was diagnosed with anorexia and finally began the healing process to accept her condition, focus on her health and love the woman she is and was.

Like this case I know dozens of women of all ages, all colors and creed who are firmly focused on their weight or dress size. What they fail to realize is that they are already so beautiful. And it’s not to say that losing weight healthily is a not a good thing, it is. The problems arise when people stop eating, when medications are taken for aesthetic purposes rather than weighing future consequences and when the obsession is purely external and superficial. That’s when people run the risk of losing the source of their real beauty: their inner self.

I know plenty of women who are far from thin and they are just gorgeous. The secret is not much of a secret: because they are happy, because they embrace who they are, because they are confident, that union and balance produces results makeup, diet supplements and plastic surgery can only dream of.

Think about it, what is sexier? A woman who weighs ten pounds less than what she currently weighs, or a woman who is secure and confident where she stands?

It’s in each of us to not allow weight to control us or how we feel about ourselves. Odds are most women we know are endlessly unfair with themselves and that I truly believe is a fact for many women.

So ignore tabloids that want to tell you what to think, how to act, or how to feel about yourself. Instead, embrace your own unique brand of beauty, be yourself and let others love you and admire you for who you are.

After all, that’s the only person you’re supposed to be. 


  1. Thank you for this wonderful post! Since I have gained weight after I got sick, I don't like myself and won't let anyone see me, but the doctors. Well, even when I was skinny I had low self esteem because of a lot of different issues. It's hard for me to love myself, but that is what we must do.. love ourselves.

    1. I am happy you enjoyed the post. If anything I've learned from life though it's that there's different types of beauty, that a lot of people can achieve it and that most people aren't happy with what they have. Our inner voice is always amongst the harshest we'll hear in our lives and that's the thing, it's our voice. It's within us. and we can talk to it and convince it to be kinder and let us show our own brand of beauty. Here's to learning to love yourself a little more and seeing that you have plenty of beauty to share. My best to you.