In our obsession for perfection, sometimes we
forget that flaws can be quite beautiful. If you remember Dirty Dancing, you’ll
remember Jennifer Grey played Frances AKA Baby. Apart from no one having the
right to put her in a corner, no one had the right to deny that her smoky eyes
and nose made her distinctive and actually quite beautiful. Sometime after the
movie, she had surgery done to “correct” her nose and it didn’t take her long
to realize how big a mistake it had been to agree to said correction.
In interviews, she says that the surgery was one of
the biggest mistakes in her life. It was as if she’d lost part of her identity.
The same happens with most of us. A lot of people lament their flaws, except
that they fail to see that they sometimes define us and that flaws and
imperfections are actually a good thing.
Men and women around the world lose sleep and
suffer deeply because they want to conquer those flaws. Weight issues, height,
hair loss, breast size, cellulite, skin color, eye color and the size of a nose
are just some things that cause suffering in people because they wish they
could control and conquer these “flaws”.
So that’s when surgery comes in the picture, and Botox,
and prostheses, and chemical treatments, and creams, and pretty much anything
you can think of in the quest to conquer a flaw. And sure, some people might be
happy when they conquer that flaw, though what I’ve often seen is that they
move onto something else they’d like to change or that they are not happy with
and the pattern repeats over and over.
That’s because it seems many people confuse the
pursuit of happiness with the conquest of a flaw, and as Jennifer Grey found
out, sometimes it’s beautiful to be flawed. Because there’s truth in flaws and
because perfection is no guarantee of happiness.
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